ROMANTIC HOME OF LOVE

Tuesday 25 October 2016

THE THREE (3) STAGES OF LOVE.

Love is a word we hear every day, it is a feeling everyone feel, it is a word we wish people should always truthfully tell us. when we are ripe of age, we fall in love with someone we feel are the best for us. But most times, loves disappoint us because we fail to understand that there are stages of love. Not until you understand the stages of love, you will keep getting hurt by the feelings of love. here are the three (3) stages of love.

1) STAGE ONE - FALLING IN LOVE: Falling in love is the first phase of love. As we grow older in life there is a tendency that we will fall in love with someone we desire or someone we do not desire from the onset but as times goes by, we fall in love with them. This stage seems to be the most memorable and sweetest of all stage. the warmth feeling is like that of a new born baby that everyone cares about, you don’t think love can hurt, no pain, all you talk about and need is the one you love. you gradually become foolish and can do everything just to make your partner happy. But is this feeling really it. Does falling in love means you will stay together forever, NO.

Facts has shown that falling in love with someone does not guarantee that that person is the one we would marry. We fall in love with different motive to different people, but love is beyond our personal imagination, its beyond our self-interest, its beyond what we/they want, it is beyond what/how we feel. when love is on fire from the onset and looks so perfect, be careful. Always ask yourself does he/she really love me as he/she claims? Do you really think they love you as they claim? Are you sure they are ready for a lifetime relationship with you? What is the probability that you will not be separated?

Falling in love is a good thing, but remember people fall in and out of love; when you fall in love know that it is just the first stage of love, it is not the future, it doesn’t mean the relationship must end well, times is the core evident that will tell. if the two partners make their decision, they can grow from just falling in love.

Remember, you can fall in love over and over again, so don’t think is only that person you can fall in love with; Falling in love is human nature. if falling in love doesn’t guarantee love, what then is true love. This lead us to stage two.

2) STAGE TWO – LIVING IN LOVE: Living in love is a very exotic stage in love. We feel loved, we fall in love, and wish the feelings never dies. But, what happen after the love at first sight, after the first month, the first year, the passion, the sex, the emotional connectivity. What’s next after falling in love? We live together.

Living together does not really imply staying with each other in the same house, it means the time and effort we spent loving that special person, the spirit of always wanting them around, they live in us so we give them room to control our being.

Living in love is the ability to stay in a relationship, it is the process of building the relationship. Living in love goes beyond falling in love, this is what expectant liable matured minds do. The don’t just fall in love, they live in it (stay together)

Living in love shows you are capable to live together. you grow to understand each other differences. You accept the ones you can and change the ones that you can’t accept. You become very tolerant, what you can’t tolerate from another person, you start tolerating it. You try and become faithful to each other, you obey each other, and try to make decisions together. You start introducing yourself to your friends, your family members, your colleagues. People begins to admires your love life. Living in love is sweet, you feel it’s alright and you would be together forever, but does that guarantee you two would be together forever, NO.

Living in love is just a second stage of the feelings of love. Anything can happen: the forceful barriers of love like family, religion, personal goals and interest, impatient, boredom, the fear of the future etc. can change the mind-set of one of the partner and call the shot for separation. When you are living in love, you are still alive, vibrant, free and accommodating. You can still have feelings for someone else, you can still fall in love with someone else or have sex with someone else if you have the slightest opportunity.

Living in love shows we all need a partner, we want someone to love us, someone to call our lover, someone to tell others is our partner, but does that really join us together forever. Just as society changes with time, some people emotion changes with time. So with all the cooing and booing, the living together, friends and family intervening while is living in love not the final feelings of love.

3) STAGE THREE: KEEPING THE FEELINGS OF LOVE: this is the third and final stage of love. In fact, this is the true meaning of love, the only thing that join two different being together. You can fall in and out of love, you can live in love and be living together and still fall out of it in due time, but if you are able to nurture your feelings, grow together, exchange your hearts and decide to go the extra miles to be together you are definitely keeping the feelings of love.

Keeping the feeling of love is the unbreakable spirit of love, it is the unchangeable feelings, the indispensable undeniable feelings of love. Keeping the feelings brings happiness, despite the present downtrodden situation, you have hope against hope in the one you love. You never losses feelings, you surrender your heart for better or worse. You become strong and encourage each other. this is what lead to marriage, when we have someone that truly shares our feelings.

you need to understand that you don’t just fall in love, you don’t just live in love, you keep that feelings, the fire of love keeps on burning every, its unquenchable. Keeping the feelings of love makes you to listen to each other, it makes you to work as a team. Despite the temptation, the fighting, the quarrel, the difference, in our heart we know they are still the best, so we settle immediately. All the tsunami of love that breaks falling in love cannot stop a strong heart that has kept the feelings of their lover. And years after years your feelings for each other is as the first day you fell in love. Your passion never fades, even in fifty years’ time you are still the same love birds. This is the feelings our parent of old has, they summit themselves to each other, they listen and respect each other. that is why, no breakup, no divorce till death do they part.

Conclusively, to safeguard our heart know that when we fall in love, it is just the first stage of love. We need to consider if the relationship will lead to marriage. Falling in love is sometimes beyond our power and expectation, but what are we expecting in return. We need to be love back. So we decide to live in love. Living in love could actually lead to keeping the feelings of love if both partners has decided to love each other despite the resistant forces of love. Try and get used to each other character, learn to tolerate each other, don’t cheat, don’t lie. Grow to keeping the feelings of love.

Keeping the feelings of love is a personal decision, it can also come when we finally meet the right person. when we find the right partner and study to know they truly love us, learn to nurture your feelings. Watch your partner if they are keeping the feelings of love, or just in love with you, if they like you the way you are not ready to take the relationship to the next level they are not ready to keep you in their heart forever.

Keeping the feelings of love is to be satisfied with the one you love. So let’s learn to keep the feelings after falling in love.

Tuesday 12 July 2016

FEELINGS!

Feelings!!! My thick feelings flies around the air, confused and frustrated, still silent but speak in tongues. A body language only my eyes could speak, only my smile feels, only my concern could elaborate.

Feelings run high; it’s like an uncontrollable current that moves past the earth. It is as bright as a glowing star. As hot as the sun, as humble as an innocent child, but can be sighted if only you feel the same way too.

My feelings Rises more than the dark night rises. Seeing you alone, my hearts pause and speak but only a deaf could hear. I wish you were already mine, I wish am bold enough to tell you, how beautiful you look, how desperate I want you, how much I need your hug, your kiss, your touch. I wish I could tell you how much I miss you. My feeling is always here for you.

Whenever we are together I feel you. When you come closer to me, there power in you that connect my heart to yours. I can't look at you twice, because I know you've suddenly swept me off my feet. I always love talking to you it makes my feelings to be evergreen.

This is what I wish every day. I wish you feel like me. I wish our heart thinks the same. I wish we are the same then our feelings will never fail us because two bright lovers make the world sweet.

My feelings are sweet, they are real, but I don't want to be hurt again. let me keep my feelings to myself, let me keep my thought to myself, I will still miss you as I've always miss your absence even if I don't tell you. You are now the sweetheart, my angel of my life....

I Love you!

Sunday 10 July 2016

HOW TO TOTALLY OWN A LADY

The challenge in satisfying this desire is that the feeling of “safe” is sometimes generated from opposing dynamics, and this can create conflict. How a woman feels with a man can change moment to moment depending on these opposing forces This can lead to confusion about what she wants. It can also confuse the man as she appears to want two different things. If we become aware of the conflicting beliefs paradigms this can begin to make a lot more sense and clear up the confusion.Love, acceptance, respect, to be desired, security, passion, are all things a woman may want in her relationship. As a matter of fact these are basics that probably everyone wants. There are certainly others and each person has specific desires. What I want to focus on here is the specific aspect of emotional safety in relationships.

First let’s understand some of the aspects that create a feeling of safety in a relationship. A man’s unconditional acceptance of a woman means that there is no judgment and criticism. She can communicate honestly, be herself, and feel emotionally safe. There are also physical and financial factors that can appeal to a woman’s sense of safety. Sometimes a woman will trade one of these comforts for another in her relationship. It is emotional safety that I want to address. It is the one that creates a great deal of confusion.

A confident man creates the feeling of trust with a woman. A woman will feel emotionally safe with a man who is emotionally available, honest, trustworthy and authentic. These are emotional character strengths she can respect and admire in a man. A man of character and emotional depth is a man who knows who he is and likes himself. His love for himself is so strong he does not need to gain the acceptance of others by trying to be something he is not. His strength is not physical so much as it is in the clarity of his mind and emotions. These are character strengths that a woman not only admires, but feels safe with. He is not a weak man that will bend to the whims of other people. She can trust him to be who he is. I describe this kind of man as being in his emotional integrity.

A woman feels safe if she believes the relationship is going somewhere.
A different factor for women that creates safety is her trust that the relationship is solid and will work out. When a man spends time doing activities as simple as cleaning house and cooking together it sends a message that he is committed to being with her. It is wasteful to invest her time with someone that may be gone soon. You want to know if your prospective partner has the capacity and willingness to match you for a deeper emotional commitment.

There is also the fear that if after getting emotionally invested in a man there will be a break up. It makes sense for us to wonder where the relationship is going. Sometimes a woman wants to be “safe” from the potential pain of a broken heart. She wants to avoid the emotions associated with being alone. This kind of safety is really about protecting herself from the painful emotions that come from her fears of break up and being alone. When a man is distant emotionally or physically from her it may bring up feelings of loneliness, or fear of a break up. Seeking this type of emotional safety can lead to emotional drama.

Fears and insecurity in relationship takes a woman out of her emotional integrity.
In order to avoid her fears of being alone the woman may make efforts to keep her man close. It might be a criticism for going out with the boys for an evening. By discouraging him to do other things she is increasing their time together. A critical comment is a means to reject his behavior so he would avoid criticism in the future. Becoming sad is a way for the man to notice her and get what she wants. If there is a lot of emotional charge the dynamic might include anger or jealousy. It is possible the man ends up feeling guilty for having done the “wrong” thing that caused her to be upset. The man may want to avoid the night out with the boys just so he doesn’t have to deal with her emotional reaction.

The Downside of getting what she wants
If a woman engages in such efforts and is successful in controlling her man she will have influenced his behavior by her emotional reactions. With influence over his emotions she will have influence over what he does with his time. He will learn to avoid the activities that bring emotional reactions and criticism and do the things that she approves of. They will spend more time together which will help her to feel solid in the relationship. It also distracts herself from the fear of being alone. In one part of her mind she has helped their relationship, but she has unknowingly created a separate feeling of not being safe.

When a woman see’s that she can modify her man’s behavior she might perceive him as not being as strong. She will see him as someone that gives up his interests, runs around trying to make her happy. He has stopped being his authentic self and started being what she wants him to be. At some level she perceives him as no longer being his own man. She could perceive him as having weak character and could lose respect for him. More importantly she will not feel safe with a man she sees as having a weak character. Some women will conclude that if they can influence or control their man then other women will also be able to control and influence him as well. All of this adds up to losing respect and trust in the man.

One assumption sometimes deep in the mind is that the stronger person controls the weaker person. If she can direct him then he must be weaker than her. This image of weakness is amplified if the woman already considers her self as weak to begin with. The loss of trust in her man’s strength may not be conscious to her, but at some level it affects her feeling of safety with him.

On the one hand the woman has driven her man to be near her so that she can feel secure in the relationship. On the other hand because she now perceives her man to be controlled by her emotional reactions she no longer sees him as a solid foundation of strength.

Desire for closeness is from our emotional integrity but can also be from fear
A woman’s desire to be in close companionship with a partner can come from her emotional integrity. The desire to spend time with a partner to have fun and create together can be completely authentic. When in her emotional integrity the sense of safety she feels is normal because together they are a stronger force than if she were alone. She is out of her emotional integrity when her motivation for time together is for protection from fears of being alone.

A woman in her emotional integrity is free to ask for what she wants, and that includes spending time with her partner. It can sometimes be very difficult to discern whether we are acting on behalf of what we desire, or on behalf of fear avoiding. One way to measure is to observe the emotional reaction when we don’t’ get what we want.

The situation looks impossible. If the man acquiesces he may appear weak to her. If he doesn’t then it appears that he doesn’t care. For the woman it is also impossible. If she doesn’t make an effort to bring him close she may feel fearful and uncomfortable with being alone. If she works to keep the man close she is acting out of fear and runs the risk of being controlling and losing respect for herself and her man.

Giving up limiting fear based beliefs
It only looks impossible if we limit our options to the compensating strategies of control. If we are to find true happiness in our relationships it will require dissolving the beliefs and assumptions that create the painful fears and controlling behaviors. We will have to seek an emotional solution beyond what the mind offers as safety from fear.

Great Love in Relationship is present when there is no fear.
The fears of being alone are coupled with assumptions and beliefs about the experience and ourselves. Those beliefs usually involve not being good enough, unworthy, self rejection, and other people rejecting us. This is the painful emotion that people are seeking protection and safety from. These beliefs are lies and only exist in the mind. Just for starters there have been many times when we have been alone and been happy. We have just learned to associate being alone with misery. When core beliefs of self rejection are dissolved there is no longer any fear of being alone and there is ample room for self acceptance and self love. Changing beliefs also eliminates the need and behavior of being controlling to our partner. Great Love thrives in the absence of fear.

What motivates the man to be with his woman?
There is ample material here to talk about the man’s half of the relationship. The man’s motives and his integrity with himself are completely unknown. He might respond to the request of his woman just because he loves her and desires her to be happy. In this way he is completely in his emotional integrity. However a man that is uncomfortable with her reactions or feels guilty may be out of his emotional integrity. Even though his actions to be with her are the same the motivations are different. What is happening in the man’s mind, beliefs, and emotions is a completely separate dynamic. This example has more to do with the woman’s perception of her man, than the man himself.

In my perception a small percentage of men actually live in their emotional integrity. It is the man’s loss. Not only is the emotional quality of life much more beautiful, but it imbues to a woman something that is very attractive to her. In the depth of her emotional integrity a woman desires to be with a man of emotional depth. Not all women are comfortable here but at some level they are yearning for a deep emotional connection.

A woman can choose to wait for a man with the character and integrity that she respects and wants. But as she waits she should prepare herself as well. Being with a man of integrity will not be like being with other men. He will be seeking a partner that will treat him with the same level of unconditional love with which he treats himself. If she brings her judgments, fears, and emotional reactions to the relationship, he may decide that he would rather be with someone else.

When a woman asks where the relationship is going there are often different parts of her asking. Authentically she will want to know if the man has the emotional depth for greater commitment, or if fear keeps him trapped. But she might also be asking because her fears are driving her mind to search for symbols of safety in relationship. In this case her motivation to know may be more about fear than about depth.

As you begin to evaluate these elements in your relationships, begin by asking what your own motivations are. To do this effectively you will need to be aware of your emotions and not the story in your mind. The story in the mind is too often the denial system or one of the transient voices in our head. You will be much more effective in being aware of another once you become self aware of your own emotional motivations, and beliefs. Whenever you evaluate your relationships, begin by looking at your half.

To gain mastery over your half of the relationship, including your perceptions, expectations, thoughts, beliefs and emotions, begin by practicing the exercises.

Wednesday 20 April 2016

18 BEST ROMANTIC WAYS TO PROPOSE

Marriage is a sweet divine ordination, it is the coming together of two strangers, struck by love to become one flesh.. Saying I love you is one thing, feeling it and practicing it is another sweet thing. When love grows beyond the kissing and natural enticement, the heart desires to live with that special person for ever erupt, and all that comes to the mind is how to have that person for eternity through marriage. And the day will come that you must say it to her/him. "Will you marry me" Hmm... Don't just say it, make it a memorable one, because the way you say it will always be in her memory, and your friends memory for a very long time.

Here are different tips to make a romantic marriage proposal, don't be. Shy, nothing is too expensive.... Enjoy!

1. Choose a favorite place, whether it's a fountain, monument, hotel rooftop, galleria, pool side, restaurant, or during your/ any special birthday party, national park etc that has personal significance to the two of you. Once you're there, ask someone nearby to take a picture of you together, smile with all your face fill with romantic emotions, slowly go down on one knee, and pour out your Heart "......

2. Have a choir, brass band or drum line show up for a surprise performance of your fiance-to-be's favorite love song in a park or public location for your proposal. For a really personal touch, ask the performers if they can incorporate your fiance's name into the lyrics.

3. Get in touch with the stage manager of your favorite production and propose after the cast's curtain call. Call ahead and see if you can have a special note or ad placement added into the playbill, so you have a keepsake of the proposal.

4. Arrange a surprise proposal with a street caricaturist. Have the caricaturist sketch a picture of you two with word bubbles that say, "Will you marry me?" and "Yes!"

5. Ask the divers at an aquarium to put on a proposal show inside their biggest fish tank. Give them a (waterproof) sign that says, "Will you marry me?" to hold up against the glass and then position yourselves for what will, at first, seem like feeding time.

6. Send your unsuspecting fiance-to-be on a treasure hunt that ends with your proposal. Start with a clue at home (a handwritten note or text message) that leads to a tour of your favourite spots all over town.

7. Go out for a night of dancing and ask the DJ or bandleader to pass you the mic so you can dedicate a song and propose on the dance floor.

8. Hire a skywriter to spell out your proposal for everyone around to see.

9. Take out a full-page ad in a newspaper, and then pick the perfect spot to have a relaxing morning of catching up on current events. Another twist on this idea is to call into a radio station and then make sure your fiance-to-be is listening when your proposal is on the air.

10) Put the ring in their favorite pet and direct it to your lover.....

11) Get a bible, in a special verse like 1st Corinthians 13.... Allow her to read it, then switched to .... Where u will put the ring and ask and little love notes of..........

12) Put in a T shirt then a longs sleeve on top, in a public or quiet spot, take off to Show will u marry me

13) If u got too much money and want to spoil her with diamond, u can arrange like 20. Set of Diamond ring in a special pack, and tell her to pick one as my wife....

14) On her birthday or special outing day you can prepare a cake as a surprise package to say will you marry me.

15) Buy them a special gift like shoe, and customize will u marry me on it.

16) Ask your local movie theater to run your special proposal "trailer," then show up early for the previews.

17) Upload a video of your pre-recorded love story with a surprise ending (the proposal!) to YouTube and then insist you have a hilarious cat video that's a must-see and watch it alone or with friends.

18). This one requires some lead time. Without your partner knowing, take a month (or even a year!) worth of video moments each day and set it to play. When the countdown of romantic moments reaches the current day, propose!

Tuesday 19 April 2016

7 TIPS THAT MAKES A GUY TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU AND PROPOSE...

What will make a guy to propose to a lady? What do you think will make him to fall in love with you? Some ladies don't understand the things to do to make a man fall in love with them, because of the pressure in the society, with the mind to join the league of their married friends; they tend to send the wrong body language to a guy. Some people have done more than enough to make their partner truly love them, yet their partner is still misbehaving with no assured future in the relationship. And my question is, if you actually do all you can to make someone love you and they don’t, why don’t you look for someone else that will appreciate you just the way you are?

There are certain questions you need to ask yourself in a relationship to know where it is leading you two; like, how did you meet? Think about it, how did you meet? Where did you meet? What connected you two together? Who connected you two together? Is the person god fearing and reliable; what makes you feel what he/she is telling you is the truth? What makes you feel they are truly the right one for you? Are you sure both of you are in love with each other? Why do you think so?

The reason why most people go in and out of relationship is because they fall for what they see. If you fall for what you see one day it will disappear or you will get tired of it, if you fall for what people tells you and you believe in it without testing them through the fire, one day your believe will fall when you discover they are not what they truly say they are. But when two people start a relationship because of what they feel towards each other, understanding each other potentials and weakness, they are likely to live together forever.

HOW TO WIN A GUY TO YOURSELF…

1. Dress Well, Dress Sexy But Not Like A Harlot.

The way you dress makes people to have a perception about your personality. Before you speak, your appearance speaks for you. Therefore, when you over expose your secret body part, the first thing that comes to a man’s mind is LUSTFUL desires. Whether he claims you are beautiful, sexy, and is in love at first sight, bear it in mind that your attractive sexy legs and cleavages is what he is imagining how to get into it, and explore the remaining part that he cannot see. So dress well, look nice, wear anything that looks good on you, and let your dressing send the right message to a guy. And when you are being approach, watch his eyes and body language, pay attention to his words. You can definitely tell if he is a guy that wants a relationship or a lustful one. Someone that wants a relationship that will lead to marriage does not rush: He takes time to understand you before asking for your hand in boy-girl relationship. They don't meet you the first day and start telling you to come over to his place immediately.

2. When You Are Been Approached, Be Welcoming, Be Discipline, But Don’t Flirt.

For a man to approach you, it means he finds you attractive, acceptable, sexy and beautiful but put it in mind that the first thing in his mind is how possibly he can cajole you to his bed. This point may be blunt or not 100% true; but when you have this mindset you will be very smart and vigilant with everything they say or do at that time.

Whenever you are having a chat, Make sure you have privacy in your conversation; say the right things at the right time, have a different view in life, be matured, be wise, talk politely, not only to him but also to people around you, think positive, talk positive, be intelligent, men likes intelligent ladies. Remember in all, be discipline, and welcoming but don’t be cheap to access. Men like women that have integrity, flirt with him when you know you are about to get married to him, not after a conversation, or meeting; try to control your emotion. Please don’t be a flirt, if he wants to flirt with you when you just met him, turn him down, let your character show that you are not that type of girl. The moment he notice this, if he is actually someone that is looking for a life partner He will take you serious,

3. Demand Less, Encourage Him More.

When guys give too much gift, know that they expect much from you. Don’t allow what you are taking from a guy to be the reason of sleeping with him, don’t be too soft or carried away by gift. Most men see women as weaker vessel; they see them as fishes, they through bait with money and gift to catch them. Let your mindset be tuned to someone that truly love and understand you. He can give you everything but still may not have emotional feeling towards you but lust. The best practice is to be comfortable with what you have. Stop being too demanding, men can give you everything just to get what they want from you, and when they are done, like; totally satisfying themselves, their feeling will becomes sour.

When you meet a guy you like and possibly fall in love with him, learn to always encourage him. Men like women that always encourage them despite the situation. They like someone that her words wake them up from being inactive in life. Someone that understand the situation, demand less, complain less, and put him in the right part of life. Try and be supportive, but be wise when it comes to financial support. Real men don’t constantly or cunningly ask for money, they work hard to make money, and be the boss, and you assist them when the need arise. Never put all you got in a man that you feel is not serious with you, someone you know is double dating, and not making you his first priority, make sure you are seeing what you are putting into the relationship, if not now, make sure you are feeling or seeing him working towards the growth of the relationship. Always pray for him, Pray with him, send him prayer messages, and bless him. Try and be his everything, someone he cannot live without. When He tell you anything you feel may become a success, encourage him, be the voice in his ear always.

4. Humble Yourself, You Have Right As Men, But Always Humble Yourself.

When you become a pompous person, and uncontrollable, the guy slowly loss interest in you. Every man wants a woman that understands them; someone that is ready to obey them, not a bossy type, someone always forming madam, someone that doesn't take correction and not ready to bend. Humble yourself, humility does not belittle anyone, it shows you have a superb grace that the proud can never have. No matter how opportune, wealthy and famous you becomes, if you can kill your pride, respect yourself, gentlemen will always want you in their life. But when you are pompous, the bad sharp guys will always be loyal to get what they want and when the time is ripe, they will leave. So, humble yourself, let people see it in you, let them speak of your great humility. Do you know you actually gain more genuine respect and true love when you are humble? So, be humble.

5. Have A Positive Way Of Life.

Let your way of life to your family, friends and others be well spoken of. Live a life that people will talk good about you, be yourself, no matter how worse you think you are, someone will always like you the way you are. Learn to be yourself. Be creative, be natural. Smile more, make yourself happy. Don’t overdo things: some people may misinterpret it when you are being too nice has a lady. Especially, when they feel age is not to your side. Please, don’t overdo things, always be yourself; any negative character that you need to change to be better in life do it; never do things because you want people to like you or be on your side. Do things because you feel its ok to do it, remember you can never please everybody? So when you feel you are doing things to your lover’s family, or friends for them to like you it won’t. Showing too much good face is not a license that will make someone to marry you. Marriage is not something you just jump into it, so everyone is been careful not to marry the wrong partner. So, just be yourself, don't be someone else because your true identity will show in due time.

6. Delay Sex As Long As You Can.

If you want to have a prosperous relationship as a girl, delay SEX as long as you can. Our world is lost in lust, as majority of people are going into relationship because they want to eat what their eyes sees. And they won't tell the lady what they want. They come as friends, as Mr. nice guy but their major goal is to have sex with the lady. So as a girl, when guys ask for your hand in friendship and you agreed, try as much as you can to delay sex.

When you delay sex in due time you will discover if his feelings is real or just in his lips. Someone that wants to be serious with you likes it when you are not a lustful lady, but a guy that is not serious would be impatient. It will look as if you are just benefiting from them, as if you are wasting their time, with time they will change and start behaving abnormally to you. If it is sex they want, they will look for someone else who will be given it to them and still wait for the day you will give it to them, but When they know you refuse to sleep with them and you have a good moral standard, if they like you, they will be force to see you as a rare special lady, and their mindset on sex will change to love.

Some guys can wait for more than a year, patiently waiting for the day to sleep with you. Ask yourself, someone that's is asking for your hand in friendship a year or two years does that mean you are the only lady in this world? If a guy has a relationship, or married men, they can wait for years until any time the lady like to give it to them.

Am not saying if you want to have sex you shouldn't, but don't be cheap, have a standard for yourself, sex is not to core evidence to prove that you love them. If you like have sex with different style a thousand times, that is not still a certificate that a guy will marry you. If you need a life partner, sex is the last thing that should come into your mind, It would be the last thing that would come into his mind, how to build a home with you will be his first priority. So ladies, delay sex, prove to them that you are not in a haste to get married guys takes advantage of this, let them know you are a focus and responsible lady.

7. Be Truthful and Faithful To Him.

Every man wants to beat his chest with his palm and says his woman is sweet and different from other women. Men like it when they know you are faithful and truthful to them. When you are unfaithful to a man, whether you give him everything he needs just to secure the relationship, in due time he shifts his feelings from you. No man wants to share his lover with any other man. Likewise no reasonable woman will want to share her lover with another lady.

If you know he is a serious guy, and he takes the relationship serious, try as much as you can be truthful and faithful to him. You can fully convince him to be. Eighty percent of men want a cheater as a sex mate but when it comes to marriage, they prefer a faithful, responsible girl. Therefore when you know he is ready to marry you, be faithful to him.

Try and practice these little tips, you will definitely see a change, don't forget to dress well, and be discipline don’t flirt. Demand less, encourage him more. humble yourself, be intelligent, and delay sex as long as you can, Be truthful and faithful to him, pray for him and always pray together. A man can offend you but they are afraid to offend God.

Friday 4 March 2016

HOW TO SETTLE MISUNDERSTANDING IN A RELATIONSHIP

Starting a relationship is like going into a school. Your partner life becomes your text book, and proper studying of your partner and passing the test and examination of life will either make the relationship successful or a fail one. Having misunderstanding, resentment, disagreement and quarrel are all spices that make a relationship stronger; but when the disagreement and inability to understand each other becomes often, the strong feelings of love will soon be fading away as no one wants to be with someone that does not understand them.

WHAT CAUSES MISUNDERSTANDING: the major cause of misunderstanding is the inability to accept and understand each other principles, each other likes and dislikes, and also their mood.

Sometimes your partner may just want to be alone, silent and quiet. Sometimes they are unhappy because of the day work, stress, the economy situation, lack of money, or not making progress at that particular time, some may need to be left alone at that time, some may need attention when they are down, if you don’t understand their mood, you may misunderstand the message they are trying to pass and pick an offence which may lead to quarrel.

If you can fully understand each other, know when you are in a play mood, sad mood, when they mean stop it, when they say continue. When they really mean what they are saying, and when they are saying it just to piss you off, if you can fully understand them, then the high rate of not quickly understanding each other will reduce.

Some men wants to be the boss all the time, some may prefer to be soft sometimes and hard other times. Some ladies prefer doing all the house work, some may feel the man must do it, or assist a bit. The way you relate to your partner in public, in presence of you friends and family. if you fail to understand their personality, likes and dislikes well, you will continue to have misunderstanding which is uncalled for if you had truly understood them. Therefore you need to understand how they are thinking at a particular time. How they will think concerning certain issues, and act well on their behalf.

HOW TO SETTLE MISUNDERSTANDING:

1) Always learn to say I’m sorry. Learn to say it sincerely, and act like you are really sorry for the mistakes you’ve done. Saying am sorry does not make you the weak one; it makes you the better emotionally matured partner. If you seek peace and happiness in your relationship, it shows you truly love that person and would not want to continue to be unhappy with them.

Sometimes to keep the peace whether your partner is the one that causes the whole mess, you can still call them and tell them you have forgiven them for their bad attitude and speech towards you. you can tell them what they have done politely and how mad you are with them but because of the love you have for them you allowed everything to die off, but they should not upset you in that manner again. Now, you are seeking peace while you are on the right side, which shows your level of emotionally maturity, and a good partner you will become. That does not mean you should be the one apologizing all the time. You don’t always apologize to someone who loves you, they know when you are hurt, so they will surely apologize when they know it.

2) Learn To forgive early. No matter how you were offended learn to forgive early. When you shove things off early, your love for each other will remain strong. I have seen couples getting angry at each other for a very long time; some almost lost it all because they felt hurt to the bones. The fact is when you start having that hurt regularly, and keeping it love will deteriorates per day.

True love is like a strong fitted bullet proof, no bullet of insults, harsh words, or bad attitude can easily penetrate into the bones. Whenever you feel offended, try and dust it off, forgive early, don’t hold grudges. Just smile.

3) Learn to calm your temper down: one good slogan lovers needs to put in their mind is, “No one is perfect” no matter how we try to please each other we are not perfect, because you can’t hundred percent please anybody. So when your partner offends you, please calm down, see it as their trait of imperfection at that time. Be silent, be quiet, just control your temper and wait until you get home; wait for a quiet time, bed time, or whenever you feel the arena is serene to talk about the issue without having a fight or quarrel.

When your partner offends you and you retaliate immediately, if they are not in a good mood at that time, they won’t give in to their mistake. But you were right; you didn’t just put it in the right way because you are saying your point in the wrong mood. So learn to be calm until you feel he/she is ready to listen to your point. With this method you can settle amicably avoid quarrel, it will look as if you two lovers are perfect, with no misunderstanding but the truth is only you two knows how you settle thing without a fight or quarrel.

4) Learn to talk things out: whenever you feel offended don’t just keep it to yourself and live as if nothing has happen. Learn to express your anger in words. You can control the situation by walking away or overlooking their action, when you are calm tell your partner what makes you unhappy, let them know you don’t like the attitude they showed you or the words they have said, let them know you don’t like it. Learn to speak politely when expressing yourself, let them know you are only doing this because you don’t want to be disrespectful; you want them to calm down before expressing yourself, you desire harmony in a relationship, let them know how you feel. Watch their response. Someone that truly loves you and understand your point of view will apologize. A matured person will know you have played the part as a positive desirable lover. Everyone wants peace in love.

So, don’t accumulate all the bad things your partner has done, waiting for the day to explode. Just learn to say it out, express yourself.

5) Learn to bribe your partner: one of the sweetest ways to settle misunderstanding when you are wrong and can’t just come out to say I am sorry is to bribe your partner. This is really funny right; it’s simple, think of what they had asked from you before that you have not given them, think of what they like the most and buy it for them. Take them outing to the place they wish and love to go, there and then you can say, I am sorry.

Sending them gift alone says am sorry, it shows you care, But don’t use this method too often less it becomes useless, it will now look as if you are buying them off and can’t say am sorry. Therefore to make it more romantic why buying the gift don’t forget to tell them in their ears that you are sorry, it makes them feel more secured and appreciated.

Most times you don’t need to give gifts to show that you are sorry for what you have done, if you are living together. Surprise them, those things they know you will not normally do, do it for them, go to the extra mile, if it is washing of cloths, cleaning the house, preparing a favorite meal, putting on their cloths, just create a scene that will make them feel please and smile at you. Listen no one in love is deeply angry at his/ her partner, it’s just a mild misunderstanding that can be managed and resolved. Do something sweet at home for them, have you try seducing them…. oops….

6) Have good Sex: for married couples, sometimes absent of sex or having sex for a long period of time separates the heart. When that misunderstanding erupts, and words, gifts, talk, and all the method you have tried do not work, have a good sex, a hot one. That will calm all the temper down, by then you can whisper in each other ear all the mistake and settled it amicably.

If we can understand that love is a bullet proof, which nothing can easily penetrate into it, we can avoid misunderstanding in a relationship. Don’t allow you anger gets into your bones, learn to shake it off, its not that you cannot over react, but because you want a peaceful relationship; be calm. It pays well to have a peaceful romantic relationship, it’s what everyone desire, but only those who are ready to understand that their partner is imperfect will achieve it. So whenever you feel down, apply this method and see how it goes.

Do have a wonderful love life.

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