LOVE DON'T BREAK IN A DAY

The beauty of life is in love, unfortunately most people lack the understanding of  true love. Can true love break? Was it really love all the way or infatuation, crush and lust? If truly it was love, then why the break up?

 

When adults start up a relationship so passionately in love and letter break up, it is always a shock and surprise to their friends and family members, because they expected them to get married. They only see the physical display of love not considering their motives, their true likes and dislikes if they were totally compatible.

Most relationship that suddenly breaks did not just break in a day. it has been broken a long time ago, either from the beginning or during the course of the relationship. They ignore the facts, and tolerated each other  dislikes, filling all the pot hole of their dislike with false unnecessary display of love. Accepting what they hate the most and believing things will work out fine but most times it doesn't work that way when the person refuses to change.

The truth is, everybody knows the kind of person they want in a relationship. when they go into relationship and are not seeing what they want, especially when they are not sure of marriage from that person, they will have a change of heart by going to the second person that have the quality they desire.  Because the innocent lover has been captured by love, they fail to see that love is not as rosy as it was in the beginning. Not giving Up and still loving that person despite the changes. Until they get stab in the heart when they lover decides to end the relationship.

When you are in love, don’t claim to be blind when you can actually see, be wise. True love is beyond boy-girl compatibility, it is beyond the set dreams and ambition. It is the ability to understand the fact that both of you are life-time partners not just sweet lovers. People can be sweet lovers yet not life partners. And when you are just mouth lips lovers and not life partners, love will surely break in a day.

 So how do you break the jinx of not been the victim of loving the wrong person for too long?

Be smart; watch their cunning way of life, and comments. The best way to judge any one is their words concerning a topic, and their way of life.

When they start saying characters and things you do not possess, and are not trying to make you what they desire, watch out, because they are definitely heading somewhere. Secondly, when they speak positive, nice and behave like an angel but still cheat, and tell lies they are heading somewhere. Just be vigilant and wise.

Believe it, there is no reasonable reason for cheating. If they truly love  you they won't cheat and lie to you. Cheating is as a result of imperfection seen in a lover. And when someone does not possess fifty to seventy percent of the character their partner desire there is a possibility of break up when the perfect person finally arrive.

One way to achieve great things in a trying relationship is to have a positive mindset, work hard and be focus towards your set dreams and ambition. When they stop believing in you and say the relationship cannot work, is a direct road to break up. Someone saying the relationship cannot work have their reason, looking at the present time and considering the future they feel the future is not for both of you. But sometimes the victims of love overlooks all those words and still love.

The truth is you can actually know someone that wants to settle down with you. They go extra mile just to make you happy; they contribute to your growth, not just with mere words but financially and spiritually. they support your ideas and dream and make them come true. But when they know there is no future in the relationship there is always a restrain in some of the things they do, it is not that they can't do it, it’s just that they feel you are not the right person, so why invest so much on someone you are not going to marry. So that spend much to get what they want are those that have enough to give, while they enjoy their self for the short while. When you start noticing this trait, be wise. Especially when their respect for you decrease.

The best thing to do to safe guard your heart if you truly love them is to have a one-to-one chat with them. Try and find out what they really want, find out what you are not doing right that you need to do. Ask them what the problem is and know their mindset toward you. Love began to break from the day we become silent in saying the things that matters, so learn to speak out, speak out what makes you unhappy and angry, quickly find out what make them unhappy too before the relationship suddenly crash.

After finding out their reason, See how you can make it work, if you can, then you were meant to be together for life. if you can't, that means they are simply not the right one for you. Please stop forcing yourself to make things perfect, love is with ease, when you find the right person all the stress and pain of love will be over.  If they can't love you the way you are no matter how hard you have tried to please them, please let them go. For you can  force the horse to the river but you can’t force it to drink water from the river, you can do all you can to make them like you, you can’t force them to truly love you. if they can't wait, let them go. If not you will just be there loving them, growing old, until they finally broke the news to you that they want a break up.

Love DON'T just broke in a day, it has been broken while they are still in the relationship, people just fail to notice the changes. Try and be wise, DON'T allow anybody just be using you as a tool. know their stand in the relationship, if they are ready to be yours forever then grow with them, if they are not focus on you, let them walk away.

if its possible try and settle your differences in time before your true love for each other totally fade out. In all, love don't just break in a day, its a gradual process, be smart to understand when that shift of emotional connection comes, try and work on  your character, your lifestyle, and you will have a successful love life. Always try to avoid heart, cause it hurts the soul, there are many mischevious people out there that are ready to toil with your feelings, dont be a victim, be a victor. lots of love.